The focus of this blog is going to be based on chapter 2 (bastardy). I found a lot of interesting facts in this chapter. For instance, the fact that people think that the solution for teenage pregnancy now is the same as they thought back then, qualifications for parenting, laws that allowed women to be punished for having a child out of wedlock (filius nullius), and the shift of opinion on the teen pregnancy issue. When a teenage girl is pregnant, the first thing associated with her is shame, sin, and poverty. These associations date back to the times of colonial america. ( http://www.flickr.com/photos/beccacc/3216874170/ ) According to our textbook some of the assumptions are true such as the fact that her child will have fewer resources than that of a married couple and so on. However, people have grown custom to assuming that these young girls can marry all of their troubles away. In so many words the question that Kristen Luker poses in our text book is would the "ideal solution" be good enough? The truth is that it wouldn't. It would make a few slight changes in the lives of those girls who give birth at early ages. Another point that was exposed in the book is the fact that society may not be concerned about the age of first time mothers as much as they are about their marital status and qualifications for parenting (16). Society usually considers you "fit for parenthood" when you have the finances, spouse, and eduaction to raise one. In my opinion, it's this type of logic that defames society's credibility. Years ago it didn't matter how old you were when you had children, in fact people set up arranged marriages at ages early as 15. The important thing back then is that you were married. It was the married vs. unmarried and that's all that mattered. It seems as if society changes their mind about who is qualified enough to have children w/ every generation. Lastly, on page seventeen Kristen talks aout a common woman names Agnes Taylor in Maryland who was to be given twelve lashes for having a child out of wedlock. It was mentioned that the same punishment went for men and women, but usually the woman was held more responsible due to her visible connection with the child. Where was the father? Why didn't he recieve these lashes as well since it takes two people to plant and fertilize this seed? It was said that since the men owned property, they were usually fined. This same idea takes placce today. The idea that since the child is bound t the woman, that she has more responsibility for the child than his own father. In episodes of "16 & Pregnant", this is apparent also. The girls are the protagonist of the show and also the ones that tend to "learn their lesson" from having a child so young.

This topic is sad but true. Society has grown to believe that it's always the mother's fault. What would they say if she was raped? Would it matter? most likely no! Because we have a double standard. A woman will never be able to do the same thing that a man does and get away with it. I find it said that we automatically assume that it was her fault and not his. She's always looked at as being fast or promiscuous. Hopefully one day this cycle will break. But it starts in the home, because you never know what she was going through. Maybe her family didnt love her and she in turn wanted to have a child of her own so that she can show that child what real love is.
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-Chasidy Allen :)
It is not fair that the women get blamed for the whole pregnancy and the men none, but this happens the majority of the time. The men should be held accountable too, because "it takes two, to tengo". Without the man there would not a child at all. I do not believe that two people should get married just because they get pregnant. I feel that getting married and being unhappy is worse for the child than if the couple does not get married.
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I agree with the above comments, it can really ruin a girls life, she not only has to deal with the growing responsibility inside her but now she has to deal with society blaming her for what's going on. Isn't knowing that her life will never be the same and taking responsibility for her child enough of a wake up call? Does our society really need to add insult to injury? As for the man "stepping up" and proposing to her, who are they kidding? Young pregnant couples that want to make it work will, they don't have to take desperate measures to make sure they stay together. Getting married is almost always a "last chance" to save what the couple once had, and if a couple has to take that dramatic of a step to save their relationship they probably shouldn't be together in the first place.
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I think it’s interesting how society’s standards for parenting change. Society sets the standard for what is socially acceptable so it only makes sense that it also judge when it is appropriate to have a child. Like Ashlee said, finance, spouse, and education are all apart of that. But I think there are times when a mother doesn’t fit into one of those categories but having a baby is the right decision for her. She should not be judged for her decision. For example, if a single mom wants to have a kid and she knows that she can support and take care of the baby even without a husband, she should be able to do that without society telling her no. But the important part is that she knows she can take care of the child. I think it’s selfish for a mother to bring a baby into a world where he or she will be neglected. I believe this is where society gets the idea that age is important for parenting. Young girls may not know how much goes into taking care of a baby. And I think they sometimes make the decision to have a child without really considering it. There should be time thinking about it before having a baby. That’s where society says that age is important. Maybe it’s because society has told me this is acceptable, but I believe that age does have importance, or maybe rather time thinking about whether or not the baby will be happy is important. There are obviously times when a mother may unexpectedly have a baby. That’s a different situation.
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