The topic I want to focus on in this blog is sexuality. One thing we talked about in class Monday is how gender roles play into sexuality. I find it apalling that people can look down on women when they have sex, but yet they encourage and praise men for having sex. Why is that? In sixteen and pregnant, Valerie pointed out that she used to judge young girls who got pregnant at a young age. She saw the young pregnant women as whores or sluts, but what about the man involved? Why is he not seen as being any of these negative things?
Now days people are having sex at younger ages and are not that concerned aabout losing their virgrinity. I know I viewed my virginity as a gift and I gave this to someone I love. In fact, we have been together for over three in a half years now. It suprises me when I hear about young girls, even some as young as seventh grade having sex. To make it worse some are not having it with just one person, but they are having it with multiple partners. It shocks me how much things change over time. There are not very many people who are too concerned with wariting until marriage to have sex for the first time, which was not the case back in the day.http://virginityproject.typepad.com/the_virginity_project/virginity_loss_stories/. This website just has a few more stories on some other women lost their virginity.
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Elaina Stansberry
Ashlee Reece says...
ReplyDeleteThere is def. a double standard in the world we live in and women play into it as well. For example, Valerie said that she thought young pregnant girls were hoes and she is not the only one that feels that way. Right now I want you to take a moment and think toy yourself about all the times you have gave a pregnant girl "the eye" and thought about her a "friendly" girl. We do it all the time and don't even notice we are doing it. As far as stereotypes about men go, their peers treat them differently. We are the ones who set these standards. A males peers will not call him a whore or criticize him for being with a lot of girls. This idea comes from the idea that we instill in ourselves and friends. The change starts close to home.
Chasidy Allen:
ReplyDeleteI think the only reason why some women are viewed as sluts and whores is because they carry themselves as such. As women we should carry ourselves as such. Yes there is a double standard in our society but just because a man does something you shouldn't want to do that. You shouldn't want to be like everybody else. Ask yourself if you really want to have sex with everybody just because? Who are you proving a point to? And what is that point. People should be smart about what they are doing. You can sleep around with whoever you want...everybody doesn't need to know though. Thats where alot of people go wrong.
I think you're right that virginity is a gift, but it is not perceived that way in society. Young kids should realize that while its something they shouldn't dwell on, their virginity is also something they should not just throw around. I think it would be easier for kids to understand if sex education classes didn't make such extreme claims about losing their virginity. Telling the truth should be number one priority when teaching kids about sex. Instead, they get a distorted view that makes them believe that after they have sex they're like a gross spit cup that nobody will want. That is not true. If you find someone you love then they can accept that you're not a virgin or not, but its not up to the sex education classes to make kids think that they're worthless after they loose their virginity.
ReplyDeleteMaggie Anderson
Virginity is absolutely a gift and the person receiving the gift should feel very lucky and appreciative. I think we can teach this in sex ed but the problem is that sometimes no matter what you say, the individual is going to make their own choice. That choice is affected by so many other factors than just what they're taught in sex ed. It's really a girl's view of herself that affects when she has sex. If a girl has confidence in the person she is and values that person, she will also value her virginity. It's really sad when a girl loses her virginity to someone who doesn't value it. I feel bad for sluts. I especially feel bad for girls that feel like they have to get drunk to feel confident to have sex or even talk to boys.
ReplyDeleteSo I think sex ed. is important and should teach the value of virginity. But I think girls should be taught self-worth in every part of their life. And that requires a lot more work. It happens with friends and school and at home.